Today is about love...
"Loving someone does not mean saying "yes" to whatever the other person wants. The basis of loving someone else is to know yourself and to know what you need... Its important that another person does not take priority over listening to yourself and knowing what you need."
-Thich Nhat Hanh
No is a viable option, always. We live in a goal-oriented culture which uses conditional love and shaming as societal controls.
As children, many of us learned to ignore the longings of our heart and comply with the wishes of others to gain love, praise and attention. We acted against ourselves to avoid the humiliation of public shaming, and the pain of rejection.
To say no to something which is not right for you requires courage and honesty. And, a willingness to be vulnerable, by revealing a different aspect of yourself.
Saying no to someone, especially someone you love, who you want to continue to love you, can be difficult. But, it is absolutely essential to your growth and the health of your relationship. Saying no can be an act of great love and trust.
Wishing you an empowered day of kindly decisiveness!
Fly on, Superhero.
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